We all have them – those weeks that Murphy’s law rules, and anything that can go wrong, does. Last week was one of those for me, but as I grow older and wiser, I realize it’s how I react to the various challenges that counts. I can exhaust myself swimming against the turbulence, wallow in my list of grievances, or distract myself with something that I can control, and get proactive and productive in spite of the situation. I used to let

It's how you react, or not, to adversity that counts

adversity get the better of me. I’d lash out in anger, or worse, give up. I watched Barbara Walters interview an old friend of mine this week about why billionaires succeed where others do not, and John Paul, along with all of the other successful entrepreneurs said they viewed their setbacks as lessons, rather than failure. JP went on to say “you knock on a door 50 times, they slam it in your face – stay as enthusiastic on the 51st door as you were the first. Successful people, Barbara, do all the things unsuccessful people refuse to do, like stay enthusiastic when you keep on getting rejected.” Well, I’m still a work in progress – sometimes I revert to old

Recipes on this week's Weekly Menu Plan

habits, but I do catch myself, and pull myself up by the bootstraps a lot faster these days. I may still have a lot of doors to knock on, but I know how to manipulate ingredients into something yummy. Instead of subcoming to the human version of ostrich behavior (pulling the covers over my head), now I hit the kitchen to write, test and photograph recipes for clients and members, and adjust my attitude back to positive.

Julie Anne Rhodes - downtime with friends

That way the week is not a total loss. As for the rest, I do my best to learn and grow as I go – sure, I’m bound to make mistakes, but then that is part of the learning process. My job is to stay out of the fear and persevere.

When all else fails, a little down time with friends, and a bite of a childhood favorite usually helps put that smile right back on my face. What do you do to perk your spirits back up when you’ve had a tough week? Speaking of childhood favorite foods – I finally tackled that rarebit burger recipe I promised you a couple posts ago…

Younkers Rarebit Burger

(compliments of Holiday Celebrations with Recipes from Younkers)

Servings: 8


1/3 cup cooking oil
1/3 cup all-purpose flour
1 teaspoon paprika
1/4 teaspoon salt
1/4 teaspoon dry mustard
2 cups whole or reduced-fat milk
1 teaspoon Worcestershire sauce
1/4 teaspoon hot sauce
4 ounces sharp American cheese, shredded (I used sharp cheddar)
8 hamburger patties
8 hamburger buns, toasted


1). Place oil in a medium saucepan. Stir together flour, paprika, salt and dry mustard. Add flour mixture to oil; cook and stir for 1 minute. Stir in milk all at once. Cook and stir over medium heat until thickened and bubbly. Cook and stir 1 minute more. Remove from heat; stir in Worcestershire and hot pepper sauce. Add the cheese and stir until melted. Makes 2 cups.

2). To make Younkers’ popular Rarebit Burgers, cook 8 hamburger patties to 170° F or until no pink remains. Place each burger on a toasted hamburger bun. Spoon about 1/4 cup Rarebit Sauce over each bun. Serve immediately.

Serving Suggestions:

This was traditionally served with french fries.


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  • August 7, 2012
    4:08 pm

    I think all of the members would agree, you inspire us to keep on cooking despite some less than successful results prior to PCA. Personally, your wonderfully positive attitude is what really helps me. When I’m feeling less than wonderful, I come here to see what is new, get some inspiration and cook up something healthy. Truly, you and the members make my days so much more fun. 🙂 A few other things that turn my days or nights around are snuggles from Molly and a good blast of music (using my headphones) whilst puttering in the studio. An attitude adjustment is never further than a cup of coffee with my furry roommate on my lap and reading your blog. Thank you for the reality checks and inspiration! I think it’s safe to say I’m a work in progress and always will be. LOL But, I certainly eat a lot healthier these days. Hugs to you and Daisy! xoxo

    • August 8, 2012
      8:59 am

      Yes! Daisy (my dog for those who do not know the little rascal) is a constant source of “pick me up” cuddles and laughs. Without fail she is always waiting at the door, tail wagging when I come home, can’t wait to plant a big slurpy kiss on my cheek in the mornings, and always up to some kind of hilarious antic – like the cupcake incident a few weeks ago.

  • August 8, 2012
    6:52 am

    Your words, as always, are inspiring and hit home.

    My life has been roller coaster city for a while now and I struggle with dealing with the peaks and valleys in a way that’s productive and not just a knee-jerk reaction.

    And the rarebit recipe looks simply decadent!! I might just reward myself with one of them this weekend!

    Your posts make huge impacts in people’s lives!

    Thank you, Jewels!

  • August 8, 2012
    9:02 am

    I think it helps a little to know we all have struggles with those peaks and valleys, but equally important to see the biggest commonality of successful people is the ability to stay positive.

    I’m hoping it’s like exercising a muscle – the more you practice picking yourself back up with each knock, the quicker and easier it is to stay positive.

  • August 8, 2012
    11:30 am

    I strongly believe that staying positive is a learned behavior and that attitudes are contageous. Negative energy doesn’t have the ability to change any situation, but positive energy is practically magical. When life starts to chip away at my good attitude I recharge by spending time with my friends. Laughing is my number one pick-me-up. I also feel a world of difference when I get extra sleep, spend lazy “me” time reading and exercising with my earphones blaring great music.

  • August 8, 2012
    11:36 am

    Amazing how just reading what everyone else does to regain their positive self helps propel me into further action as well. Keep spreading the positive!

    • August 9, 2012
      12:19 pm

      Kim is the Queen of Positivity!! She really sets a great example for everyone.

  • August 8, 2012
    12:00 pm

    Hi Jewels
    I set myself a target or goal, my last one was to meet Nile Rodgers after we helped each other through tough times last year and after two false starts last year the other month at last I travelled on three trains to make that happen at last with a good friend of mine and Nile couldn’t have been more welcoming and have hugged and kissed us both enough,got my book signed and memories to treasure. You said it would happen and it did 🙂
    The other thing is laughter and smiles oh and coffee helps too 😉
    Never give up, good times could be just around the next corner 🙂
    Already planning my next target/goal 😉

    • August 10, 2012
      10:58 am

      I’m so happy you finally got to meet in person, especially after all you have both supported each other through! I think we could all take a lesson from Nile in positivity and resilience. He’s the king of PMA.

  • August 8, 2012
    1:04 pm

    thanks for the Jewels…. I need to keep this in mind myself. I too and still learning not to let set backs effect me so dramatically. Lashing out, whining and burying my head in the sand are all techniques I am working to change in myself. Resentments are another I’m working on, and in that same vein forgiveness. Forgiving myself for all the negative self talk and forgiving those who didn’t know any better way of treating other people.

    • August 10, 2012
      11:03 am

      Self-forgiveness is a ENORMOUSLY important. Without self-forgiveness it is very difficult to view our failures as just lessons, then pick ourselves right back up, and persevere with a the knowledge we gained and a positive mental attitude.

  • August 8, 2012
    9:53 pm

    That was so interesting reading the article about your friend Jewels. Took a look to see if the Barbara Walters show is available to watch but it doesn’t seem so. How do I lift myself up? It’s strange but no matter how bad things have been,and everyone experiences bad moments it’s called being human, I still wake up the next day without a thought to the day before. I might during the day feel a bit low but always within me something says ‘it’s going to be okay’. But if the world gets too noisy for me I retreat to my bath and have a soak in sea salts and drops of lavender oil – so simple but it works wonders. I also give myself time to do an online course in what interests me. Online courses are great as there is no set time to check-in;they are self-paced and the ones I like are creative and inspirational. You could run an excellent one for cooking with food styling; presentation; inspiration to name but a few subjects. Creating keeps everyone away from destructing even if nothing comes of those ideas :). Now that recipe is definitely on the menu when we return to the UK! Also, I like the plates in the right photo of the collage; they look like your logo.

    • August 10, 2012
      11:05 am

      Here you go Rose http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QcA8jBI5Ke4 .

      • August 10, 2012
        11:08 am

        BTW,I’ve known JP over 30 years (he was still selling hair product from his living room when we first met). i can testify that JP IS the embodiment of unyielding positive, can do attitude, and a great mentor of mine.

  • August 10, 2012
    1:35 am

    love visiting your site Julie Anne … your enthusiasm is just what we all need to keep strong and firmly on our path!!

  • August 10, 2012
    11:09 am

    Wow, that is quite a compliment Christine, thank you!

  • August 10, 2012
    11:13 am

    Another very successful, wise friend of mine once told me – when one path you take doesn’t work in getting you where you want to go, it doesn’t mean you failed so give up, it just means try another path.

  • August 13, 2012
    5:24 pm

    Your words are so true and hit home each and every time. So spot on Jewels!
    My husband’s favourite motto is “NEVER GIVE UP”. It is something I have tried to instill in myself for a long time now. Before he came on the scene I was pretty negative in many areas. Not just in myself but in things I wanted to do. Of course that has changed over the years and I have become much more positive and confident. Having children also has grounded me and made me look at life from a total different perspective.

  • August 19, 2012
    10:16 am

    You are an amazing person, a great chef, and a fantastic teacher. I hope you always keep those things in mind. Your “overnight” success is on its way, and I know your brand is going to supernova soon.