Jewels: The entire of premise of the Personal Chef Approach™ (PCA™) is to help people get organized and prepare healthy meals that go from fridge to table in a snap. I derive such joy from hearing how much the approach has enhanced my members lives through giving them more time to enjoy their families and friends, to saving money, and to a marked reduction in sick days ever since they’ve been able to sit down to a delicious home cooked dinner nightly. But nothing could touch my heart more than hearing what premium member Kendra has graciously shared in the following guest post….
Kendra: When you have children, there is nothing you want more than for your child to be healthy and perfect. I have learned over the years, that the word “perfect” is a relative term.
It became apparent in our eldest child’s development that that he was not “perfect” as the absolute textbook definition goes. I recall a family friend (who has a teaching degree, and 30+ year career of teaching children who are exceptional) telling my husband and I that she felt perhaps our son was autistic when Adam was about two. Maybe it was the way she said it, but it sounded to me like it was the worst thing imaginable. I was both devastated and livid at the same time.
The diagnosis itself was something that did not come easily or swiftly. It wasn’t until Adam was six or seven that we finally had a definitive answer. We went through three doctors, and three different diagnoses. One doctor thought he was perhaps hard of hearing (he didn’t speak until he was four and was almost five before he would speak sentences). One doctor thought he possibly had either “Fragile X” or “Obsessive Defiant Disorder”, and another thought he was something else entirely. That was the last straw. We were almost at the end of our rope when finally several months later two professors in the area of child psychology and psychiatry diagnosed Adam with “Aspergers Syndrome” which is in the Autism spectrum.
With that diagnosis, our lives changed forever. It not only made life easier on us – understanding how to help our son, but on him helping himself too. One thing that changed, our home became very structured, almost regimented when he was younger. The routine brought relief to Adam, and in turn made our lives easier.
Adam is a very artistic, very intelligent (he graduated with his class with honours from high school), and a very sensitive, caring person. So much goes on behind those eyes, you can literally see his spirit. He is a blessing.
Along with routine and regiment of a structured home came what Adam can and cannot have to eat and drink. For him, the more food colouring/additives/preservatives (ESPECIALLY anything with red dye in it) the more manic, OCD and anxiety riddled he becomes. It’s like literally watching a switch being flipped in his personality when he intakes things he shouldn’t. Thankfully, with Personal Chef Approach™ (PCA™) I don’t have to worry about that for him anymore, I can more easily control the ingredients he consumes.
While some of our structures we had in place when he Adam was younger don’t exactly work anymore, we’ve learned how to adapt our household along the way. The PCA™ has been a godsend in my home. Each week a menu goes up, it tells my son exactly what meal is on what day so he knows what to expect and when. I cannot tell you how much relief it brings him, and me. Thank you Jewels! Thank you for the PCA™!
Jewels: I am actually quite familiar with the symptoms of Aspergers. I have several close friends, who like Adam are highly intelligent and extremely talented, but have been diagnosed with Aspergers. I can honestly say it had never even dawned on me (before Kendra’s kind words) how useful the Personal Chef Approach™ can be in providing those quick healthy meals and snacks without harmful triggers, and in coping with the necessity for routine. I’m overjoyed by the realization of yet another way the PCA™ can make people’s life just that little bit easier, healthier, and happier – so thank YOU KENDRA!
BTW, the text book definition of “perfect” can also be described as mediocre, and in my book boring. One of my friends wrote me the most beautiful letter once that changed my perception forever. He said that although he often knew he was different than the other kids at school, he learned to channel what others saw as his weekness’s into the very strengths that brought him huge success in life, both in his personal life and career. I have every faith that you’ve been a parent so in tune with your son’s needs, he is indeed perfect, and exactly who he was always meant to be.
PS. It would be remiss of me to overlook what day it is. My heart goes out to all of the families who lost loved ones in September 11, 2001. It’s important to take a moment to collectively reflect and mourn their loss. How have you paid your respects today?